Swap-botters opinion requested

[zianuray]

So I can no longer locate the specific rules for the various "points" (if you have it, a link would be nice!).

I got a package a little while back where

1) Yes, there was a little bit extra in it -- but really poor quality notecards. The ink smeared over everything so they were unusable.

2)  Mailed/postmarked a day or so AFTER the mail-by date (not a big deal in itself). 
The date on the site said it was mailed three days before the deadline.

and 3)  Postage due.

So I rated a 5, no heart.

And got a pouty reply that the late and the postage-due shouldn't have caused a markdown, she should have gotten a HEART b/c she sent an extra notecard.

Now, the rules I remember -- and correct me if I'm wrong -- late mailing is a 3.

And hearts are totally optional and at the discretion of the rater.

Am I being just too mean?  Should I go back and add a heart just because she pouted?


I'm just wondering why I get stuff sent to me "postage due" (3x recently) -- when I get packages / letters sent BACK to me if I don't put enough on them (twice that I recall -- may have been more).

Comments

Not a swap-er...

[ladyniniane.livejournal.com]

But just adding a thought or two here...

- extra effort is nice, extra effort with a bit of forethought is better.
- postage due indicates that someone did not pay attention to the 'rules' (i.e., take it to the P.O. and check the weight for a final postage reading before mailing it)
- late work gets a lowered grade; late work with a lie gets nothing. It's called academic dishonesty, BTW, and (in my classroom) it won't wash.

Yes, I am comparing this to classroom teaching, but y'know, that's the issue these days; people don't see school work as 'real', and now they are transfering that attitude to real life activities. Just because no one is paying you cold hard cash for it, doesn't mean it isn't important.

And, for the record, I pay attention to things like postmark dates on shipments from vendors and eBay sellers; if it's late, I make a note, if it's late and the seller posted that it was mailed on an earlier date, I note it in feedback - negatively. Don't lie to me...

[dianthus-pink.livejournal.com]

Totally seconding what ladyniniane said. I'm usually a rule-follower because I believe that most of them are there for a reason so when people break and then whine about rules, rules that I try to follow, it cheeses me off. I expect people to do as they say and not lie about it later. And definitely not whine about it when they get caught out.

[lucky12324.livejournal.com]

In my opinion she should be thanking her lucky stars that you didn't rate her a 3, which you totally could have done and still been in the right. In my opinion she is in NO position to complain about not getting a heart!

[luckystar37.livejournal.com]

http://www.swap-bot.com/faq.php#rating

She's a f'n bitch, ignore her ass or change her rating to something lower, or remove your rating. If she bitches say you don't appreciate being harassed. I have sent out AWESOME swaps and got a 5 no heart, and then sent out things where the item itself is awesome, and got a heart. The ITEM is what it's based on. For real.

You are NOT being too mean. You should leave a 3. She is being a baby. You mess up, you take the consequences (hello, my zero marring my perfect score?) And hearts ARE at your discretion. You are right, she is out of line.