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I got a letter today asking if I'd be interested in renewing membership in a certain group I used to belong to -- I enjoyed it for awhile, but eventually it go to where the monthly meetings were nothing more than "bitch sessions." The time that broke it for me was when one of the older men (late 50's, I believe) was fussing about the trash on the sides of the roads. This was back when the "adopt-a-street" stuff was just coming into fashion, and I suggested that we, as a group, do just that. Turned out he -- and several of the others -- would rather complain than do something about it. Yes, I remember that, and yes, the behavior of a few members colors my perception of the whole group, which may be quite unjust. (If it matters, I do go out with a certain group now and then and pick up trash. Depends on my schedule and whether I am informed that they're going.)

The group is an international one with a fairly large membership, and several events during the year in various places I might enjoy going; there are evening and lunchtime meetings still in the local area.

SO, my dears, what advice have you? Give it another try? Tell 'em to go hang? Call up and ask if certain people have gotten their heads out of their respective dufflebags yet?
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and the premise is "You push this button, you get one million dollars, and someone, somewhere in the world, dies." 

Do you push the button?

Why or why not?
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This is more an attempt to get actual info -- if you don't like the idea of cloning , feel free to skip on by.

The deal is, they're talking about cloning a patient's own organs for hir -- even if it's a genetic thing.  In that case, wouldn't the cloned organ have the SAME problem?  Even though this does mean immune-supressing drugs would not be needed, this doesn't sound like a good idea to me. 

Oh you who are better informed than I, what am I missing here?
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[info]theperfumer's LJ, and posted also in her blog here, I hereby question the convention of the "three faces of the god/dess" as used in Wicca/Paganism/Heathenry/whatever practices use these designators.

Four primary directions are recognized (NESW), and four elements (Earth, Air, Fire, Water), guardians, towers, etc...there are more phases of the moon than three (though I'll leave the exact number up to someone else to fuss about; I use 4:  Dark/New, Waxing, Full, and Waning), four seasons, four "solar observances" (Solstices and Equinoxes), four cross-quarter observances....

And there are women, as she points out, who do not fill any role described in the standard Maiden/Mother/Crone conventions.

I've heard reference to "Maiden/Mother/Warrior/Crone" (ala Mercedes Lackey) and "Maiden/Mother/Queen/Crone" (not sure who, but I believe I read it in SageWoman magazine by BBI Media).

What "new" archtype would you suggest for a woman who has not had children (whether by choice or by fate), but who is not yet a Crone?  Surely this does not diminish her nor her contributions to society, though there are certain experiences she will not have and certain lessons she will not learn this time -- but maybe she learned them well her last time on the wheel, and this time is for other lessons.

Warrior, in either the military or the business sense?  Queen, if she remains sovereign in her household (whether a one-person bed-sitter or a mansion teeming with family and/or servants)? 

How about for a woman who has had children, but they are no longer in her household; they have grown up and started their own?  Is she "stuck" with the Mother designation until her Croning, or does she take a new role and title?

And how about men?  Youth, Father, Sage...apply the same arguments, please, and go from there.  If a man chooses to not become a father, surely this does not diminish him, though again, some lessons may be reserved for another incarnation (or already learned).

(cross-posted to [livejournal.com profile] nonfluffypagans )

Here is the specific link to that post -- wow, really good discussion points!

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Setting Suns by Elizabeth Donald ([livejournal.com profile] reannon )

OK, it's been out a few years; I just got a copy Saturday.

And this is good stuff. 

Short horror stories, some very short, that have me checking the closet and under the bed.  Mostly of the "Hmmm...y'know, that's just possible...WHATWASTHAT?!?!"  I like horror movies and stories and books...most I wind up laughing at.  These, not so much -- there's humor in appropriate (and sometimes inappropriate) places, much like real life, and that just makes them more real, more possible.

And the little notes about what inspired each one or what was going on as it was written are a great touch.

*Sort-of because I don't know the first thing about writing a book review, or a book for that matter.

And no, she didn't ask me to say anything; I don't have anything like her amount of readers on here! :)

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Triggered by a post from [livejournal.com profile] daughterofodhin 

Those of you who perform energy work, divination, etc.:

Do you charge?  Why do you charge?  How much do you charge?  How do you decide how much to charge?  Do you take barter, service for service, if you don't accept cash?

Why did you decide to NOT charge?  Do you ever accept a donation for, say, the animal shelter or on behalf of someone who is having a rough time?

I know a person* who will NOT charge for tarot readings or energy work -- but they'll call you up a few days later and do the whole "Oh, I'd just love to go here or do that or have this, but it's just too much trouble/money/etc.  Can you drop me off there and watch my kids and pick this up while I'm busy?"  *Sorry, I have clients that day.*  "Oh, well, I thought since I didn't charge for that (reading that took about 20 minutes at a venue we were both at anyway), you might be willing to help me out with this (which will involve about 5 hours counting travel time and several gallons of fuel, and buying food for the aforementioned kids).  SOR-ree to have BOTHered you!"  Now if they had said "barter for services" and arranged a time, that would be one thing, but I'm not canceling paying clients to encourage this individual's guilt-tripping tour guide business.  (I have been told by others that they have also been put to this.)

Just to clarify, I pay for whatever service I require now, or have a specific deal laid out.  And NOT with this person!

*No-one on this list, obviously.

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There's some amount of noise being made about this person being discharged from the military because he came out of the closet on national TV.

And here, this fellow was dismissed "because of anonymous emails" -- but after the discharge, says, "Oh, yeah, I'm gay.  I just didn't say so out loud."

Now the second one I would take issue with the discharge, as there was no proof nor on-the-record acknowledgment of the point.

BOTH parties, however, say they knew about the "Don't ask, don't tell" policy going in, and both DID, in fact, take oath anyway.  Read down aways on the second link -- supposedly there was evidence of at least three liaisons while he was on active duty, and the emails apparently came from one of these persons. 

But the guy -- a West Pointer?!?! -- in the first article linked?  Comes out ON TELEVISION and expects nothing to be done????  I think he was looking to be released from his obligation and knew this would do it.  Then tries to claim he "doesn't want to live a lie"?  What, pray, did he think he was doing when he raised his hand?

Also, if "The President" (an office, not a person), can m/l do away with the policy, doesn't that mean any president in the last few decades could have done away with it?  (See first link, third paragraph.)

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(no attribution given)
I changed a few things, but left the originals in.


1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a
prince, and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less
food that is manufactured in plants.
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy.
5. Make time to pray meditate.
6. Play more games.
7. Read more books than you did in 2008.
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
9. Sleep for 7 hours enough.
10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk daily. And while you walk,

11. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what
their journey is all about.
12. Don't have hold negative thoughts or things you cannot control.
Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don't over do. Keep your limits.
14. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake.
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of
his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your
present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate
  The only one your hate harms is you.
20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.
Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and
fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn
will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

25. Call your family often.
26. Each day give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything.
28. Spend time w/ people over the age of 70 & under the age
of 6
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your
friends will. Stay in touch.

32. Do the right thing!
33. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or
34. GOD heals everything. This too shall pass.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come.
38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD Deit(y/ies)-of-your-choice for it.
39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

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Got a call yesterday that could be good PR, could be more trouble than it's worth.

Someone has a daughter on total care, about 15 miles away over not-so-good roads (travel time would be at least 30 minutes one way) according to the phone number prefix.

Had an MT coming for several years to work on the daughter, but the MT raised her rates and she couldn't afford it anymore.  Taking the daughter to my office in Monett is out of the question, apparently, and calling any of the MTs in her own town (at least 3 that I know of) likewise.

She wants me to drive out every week to work with her daughter for an hour -- plus travel time of an hour, plus setup and all -- for $20 each trip. 

She can't afford regular rate, can't leave her name, didn't ask if there are options or if I'd take insurance.  If she's been primary care for someone for years, wouldn't she know to ask about insurance?  If she's a distraught mother, wouldn't she ask about barter or somesuch?

I've had several people try to scam me already, and I just don't know if this is another.  I feel bad that she can't afford the regular rate and that I don't feel I'd be breaking even.  If she'd be willing to work with me on options -- like getting me referrals from her church, support network, whatever -- I'd work with her in return, but just "No.  Gimmie."  bugs me. 

Granted the daughter has a raw deal (if she exists), as does the mother (as supposedly primary caregiver),  but I've hauled table to out-of-the-way places before and been told, "Oh, s/he's not here -- well, since you're here, you can work on me while you wait!"  (When you tell them the rate, they insist "But you're already here!  It's not like it's going to COST YOU anything!")  Which would be OK IF they'd pay me for the work, but that wasn't in their game plan.  And I consider that a scam, too.

Does anyone know how I can find out if this gal is on the up-and-up?  What really makes me suspicious is that it seems none of the MTs in her own town are willing to work with her, or why would she be calling someone from elsewhere?

And before y'all get all "UR being MEEN" on me, yes I do have some "charity cases" that pay a greatly reduced rate.  As well as my other tings I do including blood and sweat (but not tears so far, except when the needle slips).

ETA:  And the votes are in...and I'm leaving it well alone.

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To others who are doing the whole interview thing, and to interviewers:

1)  When does "I'll let you know by Thursday" mean "I'll let you know by Thursday" and when does it mean "No, but I don't want to actually SAY that"?

2)  Is there a way to tell the difference without waiting in vain for a call?

3)  When is it a good idea to call and say "Hi, it's Friday and you said you'd let me know by yesterday" and when is that a REALLY BAD idea?  And how to tell the difference?

4)  If someone is gonna lie to me from the start, do I really want to work for/with them anyhow?  (Hint:  I'm pretty darn sure the answer is Not-Just-No....)

5)  Is the situation described in the second part of #1 an actual lie, or a socially mandated/sanctioned circumlocution?

6)  Why does the word "sanction" and its tenses have two opposing meanings?  Which is the more widely accepted meaning?

Jury Duty

Mar. 29th, 2009 12:29 pm
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I'm told there is a difference in the verdicts "innocent" and "not guilty" -- but what IS the difference?
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I've read Fahrenheit 451 several times, starting in grade school.  Tonight I saw the movie.

In such a situation, would you be a book?  Which book?  Why?  (Please include the Author and date of publication, if you know it -- there are several books out there with the same title now!)

And none of this "Oh, I'd be the whole Tarzan series!" stuff.  ONE.

For purposes of this discussion, assume you CAN memorize an entire book; "Oh, I'd like to but..." is not an option right now.  Maybe I'll ask that question later!

"No, and here's why not" IS an option.

I don't think I need to say this, but NO SNARKING other folks' choices or reasons.

And please, feel free to link to this -- I want lots of responses to think about!

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used some terms that struck me as oddly familiar when the show was on TV some decades ago -- 

but it took me awhile to figure out that "critters" was a variant of "creatures" and "vittles" meant "victuals."

Now are these examples of dialect or of something else?  Is it simply mispronunciation?

What are some examples from your family or region?

Gramma generally said "stoop" rather than "front porch stairs" and "steps" rather than "stairs."


Dec. 15th, 2008 10:11 am
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So in this post the other day I was griping about series of books where the author seems to run out of ideas early on -- this is a sort-of followup to that one.

Some stories that do NOT seem to run out -- at least for me -- are the Vorkosigan yarns, the Dorsai tales, "The Cat Who..." books -- and before anyone claims I'm just cat-centric, I will assure you that the "Sneaky Pie Brown" books do nothing for me.

Right now I'm wading through Valentine Pontifex, having danced through the pages of Lord Valentine's Castle and set aside The Majipoor Chronicles (books  3, 1 and 2, in order of mention here) as being a bit too italcized for my eyes at the moment -- italic print in large quantities is just more than I can deal with for now.

I very much enjoy the Discworld stories, though I can usually handle ONE at a time with a few weeks before the next.

Heinlein, now, I damn near worship.  Yes, he used a lot of carefully NON-explicit sex in his books, but it was necessary to the point/plot and not there merely to shock.  I started on his books from the public library and the mall bookstore (Heritage, I believe, at the River Roads Mall in St Louis) in about 6th grade.   The juveniles earlier, of course, but once I got hold of Stranger I was in a daze for days.  It just made so much sense!  (NO, I did not / do not take recreational drugs.  My reality is weird enough, thank you.)  And yes, he used some of the same patterns in more than one book -- why not?  They weren't repetitive nor shallow, and enough is changed that two society matrons could wear them to the same function without embarassment.

Spider Robinson, pretty heavily influenced by Heinlein, and every bit as good (in some ways, maybe a touch better for my reading enjoyment) though enough different to not be a "clone." 

I don't flatter myself that I'm intelligent enough to be a Heinlein heroine or one of Lady Sally's artits artists.  I don't analyze things well as [livejournal.com profile] theferrett or present ideas as well as [livejournal.com profile] ozarque . 

I DO know when a book is being used only as an excuse to write about unrealistic sex.  Because, y'know, "sex sells."  Which it does.  That's why there are some books -- and some imprints! -- I don't bother reading.  Yes, I've read three Harlequin books.  Same bloody plot, just switch out the name, eye color (sometimes) and location.  They hold no interest for me.  Read one of the Sillhouette books when they were coming out -- well, about half of it.  It was going the same direction as the Harlequins, so it went in the ashcan.

There'll probably be additions to this post during the day -- there's a lot more I want to say but it hasn't gelled yet.

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A lot of authors I start off liking seem to go to the dogs after about the third book in a series -- sometimes after the second.  I have to wonder why that happens -- do they start writing for sales rather than to tell a story, and therefore write when there IS no story?

Examples:   Patricia Cornwell, MR Sellars...it took Mercedes Lackey longer than that, but each of the series I've read of hers has gone south.

And OMG don't get me started on Laurell K. Hamilton.
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First bit ganked entirely from [profile] greeneyedtengu:

09:57 am - Firefly Fandom Wank Response

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An interesting-- and intensely hilarious-- response to [profile] _allecto_'s claim that JOss Whedon is an anti-feminist rapist comes from [profile] aic_weirdo in Miandry in Popular Culture, Part I.

I'm staying out of the wankage this time. But this is too funny to not pass on.

Thank you [personal profile] spankerella, from whom I ganked the anti-wank.

The only bits I feel qualified to comment on -- not having seen the series and all -- are these:

(from [profile] _allecto_'s post)

"The first scene opens in a war with Mal and Zoe. Zoe runs around calling Mal ‘sir’ and taking orders off him. I roll my eyes. Not a good start."

"The basic plot of the series is Malcolm Reynolds and his second in command Zoe <snip>"

"Zoe...(h)er role is to support Mal’s manly obsession with himself by encouraging him,
calling him ‘sir’ (emphasis mine),and even starting the fights for him."

My notes:

Uhm.   OK, I do NOT know who is the ranking person in the first quote, but from context in the post let's say it's Mal.
And in the SECOND quote, it's pretty darn clear.

Point?  If you're the brass, you give the orders.  If you're NOT the brass, you FOLLOW those orders, especially in the middle of a war.  As a general rule, you call the captain of a ship (or any officer, including any NCO if you're a Marine) "Sir."  Or Ma'am, if they're female (and not a Marine).

Heck, I call my classmates (and instructor, and HUSBAND for gossakes) Sir or Ma'am as appropriate just from force of habit -- it doesn't mean I'm gonna crawl over and lick their boots!

Someone ([profile] _allecto_,  perhaps?) needs a bit of a reality check, IMO.

"Aside from women being fuck toys, property and punching bags for the men, the women have very little importance in the series. I counted the amount of times women talk in the episode Serenity compared to the amount of times men talk. The result was unsurprising. Men: 458 Women: 175. So throughout the first episode men talk more than two and a half times as much as women do. And women talk mainly in questions whereas men talk in statements. Basically, this means that men direct the action and are active participants whereas women are merely observers and facilitators."

Mal, Wash, Jayne, Shepherd, Simon
Inara, Kaylee,  Zoe,  River

OK, maybe this is an accurate count.  I have the possibly mistaken impression from somewhere that River doesn't talk much, if at all, for at least the first couple of episodes, so maybe we should count her out for this.   And -- who is onscreen more?   Questions can be used to direct action or make people think -- if you're captain of a ship, are you going to be more receptive to "Have we tried this yet?"  or to "That's a dumb idea."? 

Also, is the poster counting each time one starts to talk, or is word count taken into consideration?  Is a 4-page monologue one utterance?  Would this entire post be opening my yap ONE time, or once per sentence, or per subject...?  Not enough information here.


Nov. 30th, 2007 06:53 am
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So all this yak about the new flagging and filters and age-related assumptions.

Oddly, even when there have been signs (posted in stores) like "You can't buy knives if you're under 18,"  I've not had any problem walking up to the register and getting what I want.  I bought pocket knives and hunting knives at 13 without a blink from the clerk or manager!

And from a comment someone else made, the Anita Blake books are considered to be "adult content" and not to be sold to anyone under 18?  News to me.  I'd have more trouble letting an overly-literal so-called adult walk out with them than a 12-year-old with a good grasp of the difference between fantasy and reality.

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Next post here -- details -- new filter

See "Next Post" for update!  Further updates will be done by email -- this means I need email addresses :)

First Edit:  Since I haven't done this before, I'm gonna have to ask for a lot of advice and patience here!

Right now it's looking like Pilot Vials --

Imps and Pipettes, minimum split of 10, increments of 10.

One-dram (1/8 oz) Roller bottles and 5 ml plastic Atomizers, minimum split of 5.

Prices and postage will be discussed tomorrow :D

If anyone has a major problem with the minimums, please let me know; I'm just trying to not lose entirely what few marbles I have left.

OBviously I'm not quite sane, I volunteered for this!

Edit 2:

Meant to post this earlier -- NO DRAMA.  I have no control over how long a supplier takes to get packages to the PO or where-ever, and none over the PO itself.  I DO have control over when I can get to counting, packaging, and shipping, but even that is subject to my job. 

If anything in the order is broken or short, all'a'y'all will be informed and we'll work it out together.

PRELIMS:  This is not final, but is to give all of us an idea. 

Vials -- caps with dabber, w/o clip.  10 / $1.27
Pipettes -- 10 / $1.10
1/8 oz rollerbottles -- 5/ $3.13
5 ml plastic atomizers -- 5/ $3.13

That's rounded up from a fraction of a cent, just to make it easier.  They price things in dozens, so...!  But I generally see people asking for 10, 25, etc, so that seemed a good way to break it down.  No idea on the shipping yet -- I'm thinking maybe 10% of your base total, plus 
$2 -3  for materials and postage at my end?  Does that sound fair?  Seriously, I don't want to lose much, but I don't want to gouge anyone either!
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I gotta ask.

There's an article in the local paper about victims of a skywalk collapse 25 years ago not being properly memorialized.

There are still articles about "so-and-so died in 9-11 so he is a hero and should be recognized as such."

I've seen Q&A sessions/interviews with these folks that go something like this (generic, of course): 


What did X do to be a hero?

He died.

Why is he a hero?

He was in the building and he died! Why are you picking on him? He's dead! He's a hero!

Well, was he helping someone else get out?  Was he trying to put out a fire?

No, he just went to work and he was killed so now he's a hero!


Hmmm.  So if I go to work and die from a heart attack or bad seafood or because a machine broke and I was in the wrong place, 
I'm a hero.  Cool.

I'll go with the notion that these people were in a bad place at a bad time -- but I happen to believe in reincarnation, so my take is that they had some input (before they got these bodies) on how and where and when and why they would die.  Life lessons, and moving up to the next grade if you will.

I do NOT hold with the idea that a hero is anyone who dies in a politically/religiously motivated attack.

I believe that a HERO is someone who does their level best to help others out of the same situation, especially at a cost to them in pain, inconvenience, or their own life, or puts himself at risk to help.  

It has been suggested to me that LEOs , military, and firefighters as a class should not be counted as heroes, since they take oath to go in harm's way; I disagree with this but do think they should be held to higher standards for this reason.



May. 4th, 2006 05:04 am
zianuray: (dragon)
Not a lot going on -- boredom can be a relief.

Discussion yesterday about "So the feeling of satisfaction after a good meal is actually a BAD thing because then you have something to show you that hunger is not fun? Relief of pain is bad, because then you know pain hurts?"

Which, of course, rather "tizzied" me. I think there's sort of a point in there somewhere maybe, but dang if I was in any condition to reason it out.


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