Swap-botters opinion requested

[zianuray]

So I can no longer locate the specific rules for the various "points" (if you have it, a link would be nice!).

I got a package a little while back where

1) Yes, there was a little bit extra in it -- but really poor quality notecards. The ink smeared over everything so they were unusable.

2)  Mailed/postmarked a day or so AFTER the mail-by date (not a big deal in itself). 
The date on the site said it was mailed three days before the deadline.

and 3)  Postage due.

So I rated a 5, no heart.

And got a pouty reply that the late and the postage-due shouldn't have caused a markdown, she should have gotten a HEART b/c she sent an extra notecard.

Now, the rules I remember -- and correct me if I'm wrong -- late mailing is a 3.

And hearts are totally optional and at the discretion of the rater.

Am I being just too mean?  Should I go back and add a heart just because she pouted?


I'm just wondering why I get stuff sent to me "postage due" (3x recently) -- when I get packages / letters sent BACK to me if I don't put enough on them (twice that I recall -- may have been more).

Comments

Not a swap-er...

[ladyniniane.livejournal.com]

But just adding a thought or two here...

- extra effort is nice, extra effort with a bit of forethought is better.
- postage due indicates that someone did not pay attention to the 'rules' (i.e., take it to the P.O. and check the weight for a final postage reading before mailing it)
- late work gets a lowered grade; late work with a lie gets nothing. It's called academic dishonesty, BTW, and (in my classroom) it won't wash.

Yes, I am comparing this to classroom teaching, but y'know, that's the issue these days; people don't see school work as 'real', and now they are transfering that attitude to real life activities. Just because no one is paying you cold hard cash for it, doesn't mean it isn't important.

And, for the record, I pay attention to things like postmark dates on shipments from vendors and eBay sellers; if it's late, I make a note, if it's late and the seller posted that it was mailed on an earlier date, I note it in feedback - negatively. Don't lie to me...

Re: Not a swap-er...

[zianuray.livejournal.com]

Isn't school supposed to be "Real Life, Intro To"?

And yeah, I keep track too -- on Swap-Bot, "the rules" TELL you to check postmarks and such.

[zianuray.livejournal.com]

That's about what I thought they were -- and sending date is a swap requirement, so...I could have marked her a 3 and still been fair. *shrug* Well, it's not like she's stalking me on the forums or anything!

I've signed up for two more easy swaps -- not "make 17 of this, all different!" -- just to keep in with it. One is 3 pens the other is soap -- each to just one person. SO much easier than multiple items to multiple people, though those are fun WHEN I have time.

Hopefully I'll be busy enough to not have much time for this after graduation!

[zianuray.livejournal.com]

It's going. It's hard/challenging, and I'mnot doing as well as I had expected, but I'm getting there -- I am NOT at ALL used to getting a "C" in ANYthing! I was so mad at myself!

We're still on the Muscle System, and it's complicated -- there's a lot to memorize (which, I'm sure, I'll forget 15 seconds after turning in my boards!), but I passed Swedish and we're all on geriatric, prenatal, and infant massage right now in the practical part of the class.

So how's YOU?

[zianuray.livejournal.com]

I thought we already knew about the Fibro? Or is this just "professional" confirmation?

[dianthus-pink.livejournal.com]

Totally seconding what ladyniniane said. I'm usually a rule-follower because I believe that most of them are there for a reason so when people break and then whine about rules, rules that I try to follow, it cheeses me off. I expect people to do as they say and not lie about it later. And definitely not whine about it when they get caught out.

[zianuray.livejournal.com]

I figure if you sign up with something, you have agreed to play by the established rules. You (they) should have read those rules before getting into it. Therefore, kwitcherfussin.

So thanks for the backup :)

[lucky12324.livejournal.com]

In my opinion she should be thanking her lucky stars that you didn't rate her a 3, which you totally could have done and still been in the right. In my opinion she is in NO position to complain about not getting a heart!

[zianuray.livejournal.com]

Thanks, I feel better -- not that I felt BAD, just that I wanted to be certain!

[luckystar37.livejournal.com]

http://www.swap-bot.com/faq.php#rating

She's a f'n bitch, ignore her ass or change her rating to something lower, or remove your rating. If she bitches say you don't appreciate being harassed. I have sent out AWESOME swaps and got a 5 no heart, and then sent out things where the item itself is awesome, and got a heart. The ITEM is what it's based on. For real.

You are NOT being too mean. You should leave a 3. She is being a baby. You mess up, you take the consequences (hello, my zero marring my perfect score?) And hearts ARE at your discretion. You are right, she is out of line.

[zianuray.livejournal.com]

That seems to be the general consensus :) Nice to know I'm not just being bitchy!